Lady or the Tramp? The Power of Acting Like a Lady

As I was checking out at the grocery store the other day, I scanned the tabloids that lined the check-out. One of the many photos of Catherine Duchess of Cambridge, better known as Princess Kate caught my eye. There was something about her beauty, femininity and confidence that was very inspiring. She presents herself as true lady in every sense of the word. Her clothes are beautifully fitted accentuating her female curves, but not exposing a lot of skin.  Her hair and makeup are always done with classy elegance. She has a confident posture and a pleasant smile on her face.

So how does she compare to Brittany Spears, Lindsay Lohan or Paris Hilton? Kinda hard to even find a way to do that? These ladies are shown posing for Playboy, being out of control in their drinking or drug use. Their behavior seems to be a series of playing to the camera or running from it.

So what does all of this have to do with dating?

All of those ladies are receiving attention, but Princess Kate is being honored and respected while the actions of the other ladies are being mocked and ridiculed. In all of life, and specifically in dating, the consistency of how you act and how you present yourself will directly correlate to the type of man you will attract. So if you want to be treated like a lady, one who is cherished and respected, you must act like a lady. So, now is a great time to ask yourself, “Am I acting like a lady?”

A lady is into dressing sexy, not slutty.
There is a reason women were made with curves, a softness about them, smaller features, and a beautiful smile. One difference between sexy and slutty is how much you show and to whom. If you are showing your midriff and tons of cleavage, that would be slutty, not sexy. Yes, you will get attention; but you won’t receive respect.

A lady sees the good in others…especially other women
I was speaking with  a gentleman the other day and the one thing he commented on was the fact that women can be so catty. Many times women will nitpick other women. Instead of finding something to “complain about” comment on something good about other women. (Every one of us has SOMETHING going for us!) If you view the world with a less judgmental mind, you will be more pleasant and fun to be around. You will also attract less judgmental people to into your life.

A lady is able to hold interesting conversations.
There are two ways to do this. First, continue to grow and educate yourself so you have interesting information to add to a conversation. This comes from trying new things, reading the newspaper, checking out the latest movies, traveling or taking a continuing education class from the local community college. A good gauge is your answer to the question, “What’s new in your life?” If your answer is, “nothing” then go find something new and exciting to add to your life.

The second part of holding interesting conversations is asking questions of the other person in order to learn about their life, passions and interest. You will come across as a charming and interested individual and you will add to your knowledge as well.

Being lady isn’t about being a helpless damsel in distress. On the contrary, there is a lot of power in being a lady. There is a mystery and intrigue in a lady that is mesmerizing to true gentlemen. The dynamic between a lady and a gentleman is very powerful for both the man and the woman. All you need to do to get started is just act like a lady!

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